For many smart BBW women, the BBW hookup dating process usually goes something like this:
You can date around until you meet someone you really like. Then you'll naturally stop dating and focus on your new lover. You may not have been alone with him, but he already cares about you. Also, you're busy with work and other things, so you make excuses that you don't have time to continue playing the game. Maybe it would be nice if you both agreed to be exclusive curvy dating partners after a few dates.
Then he freaked out and said he needed space. Or you think he's afraid to commit.
Or, you start to see red flags. The charming guy is beginning to show signs of workaholism. This sociable, fun-loving fellow seems to have had too much to drink. The powerful one is sometimes a little controlling.
Have you ever been in this situation?
As we discussed in my blog about the first BBW dating mistake single people make, rushing into a BBW dating relationship often backfires.
The truth is that only steady and consistent effort can win the game. Even if you think he's the one, date another guy for at least two months. Even if he asks you to be his one and only right away, or he says he's not curvy dating anyone else, keep your options open. This is important because it allows you to compare and contrast different men. So you can really find the right person for you. When you take the time to get to know someone, you're more likely to spot red flags. What's more, this slow process allows you to break the pattern of attracting people who are afraid of commitment.
Worried he'll lose interest because you want to take it slow? Don't! I've helped thousands of plus size women get the BBW hookup relationship they want. I promise you, the right person will stick it out. In fact, slowing down often makes him chase you more! On the second chubby date, say something like, "rob, I had a great time with you! You're funny. I just want you to know that I promised myself I'd take it slow. But I can't imagine who I like better than you."
So, how do you know when to be exclusive with a man?
In BBW dating programs, you only gradually become exclusive after at least two months of improved contact. This means the two of you are getting closer and he is more emotionally open and loyal to you.